Woman Spends $400 On Tech So Entitled Boyfriend Can Work At Her Place, Criticizes What She Bought Instead Of Thanking Her: ‘I'm feeling salty and unappreciated’

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    AIO? My (33F) boyfriend (30M) asked me to buy things for him to WFH at my place. Instead of saying, "Thank you," he criticised the monitor resolution for being "very low."
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    I moved to my apartment 6 months ago and my boyfriend of 2.5 years asked if I could buy a WFH setup (monitor, speakers, keyboard, etc.) for him at my place for when he stays over (so he can work from home at mine - it is about a 30 minute travel
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    between our places). For a while I was resistant to the idea because I would be buying something I wouldn't use, especially when he had his own mini PC, laptop, and portable monitors (but he has resisted against the idea for some reason, which I think is because of the effort it takes to bring it back and forth from mine to his).
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    I recently decided to purchase a 32" inch monitor and other computer parts for him and told him via text. I was feeling weird about his response - after ignoring my original message and responding with an unrelated short, and then ignoring me for a
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    day, he asked me to buy him a "full keyboard" and commented that the resolution for the monitor was "very low" for the size. No thank you, no appreciation - I don't expect a lot, but it's making me feel weird, especially as I'm
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    out of pocket $350-400 for something I don't use. I am perceiving entitlement from his part, especially if the shoes were reversed I wouldn't ask that of him and I suspect he wouldn't accommodate me either.
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    To give a bit of history, my boyfriend has a history of telling me what I should do with my own home. When I moved to my own place he has told me what TV I should buy (to fit his gaming
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    requirements, even though I don't own a gaming console or PC), what rug I should get, etc. We don't live together and that's not on the agenda for a while as I want my own space as a recent first homeowner.
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    I haven't responded to him yet because I don't want to react out of emotion. Right now, I'm feeling salty and unappreciated.
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    I do intend to tell him about how I'm feeling, but wanted to get other people's thoughts on if I'm overreacting and how I should approach it with him. He gets. quite sulky when I bring up these topics, so I'm a bit stuck on what to say to him. What's the best approach to talk about this with him?
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    RantyMcThrowaway • 3h ago Oh baby he is walking allll over you. Not overreacting - why couldn't he pay for his own equipment for his own job? Can you return the equipment for a refund? Return the man too.
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    • mooreHart 3h ago Are you his sugar momma or something? That man reeks entitlement to your space, time, and peace. Why are you entertaining this exactly?
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    OldBroad1964 • 3h ago Definitely not overreacting. He needs to buy his own stuff. There are so many red flags here. As to how to bring it up: I am not comfortable paying for you to be able to work at my place. I am okay with giving you a designated spot.
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    Since you know exactly what you want, I'll return the stuff I bought and you can get what you want. If he sulks then you know that he's acting like a spoiled brat and will not get better.
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    • Lahotep 3h ago NOR. I'd return everything and let him buy his own stuff. Not sure why he thinks he has a right to tell you what to buy for your home. You should have a talk with him to figure out what's going on and set some boundaries. He should be buying his own stuff and be grateful your allowing him an area of your home to use for his work.
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    Desperate-Prior5... • 3h ago He's training you to do as he pleases. You'll keep fighting to give more and more to try to make him happy one day
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    JollyAd5054 · 3h ago Are you his boss no then your aren't the one to get him that stuff. If he wants to work from you house he needs to buy his himself. If you do this then the next ask will be even bigger.
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    Impossible-Cap-7... 3h ago If he wants to work there, he can buy his own . Why is he asking you to buy things you won't use and telling you what to do in your home that he doesn't live in? Stop letting him use and walk all over you.
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    Psychological-Fo... 3h ago The moment he expected. you to buy these things for was the moment you should have kicked him out of your life. He doesn't respect you, he jsut thinks you are useful. Stop being a doormat
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    Glittering-Peak-5... . 3h ago Is he trying to move in by stealth? You owe him nothing, which is what he is giving you. Treat him as he is treating you, don't buy him any more technical equipment, especially as he is so ungrateful and unreasonable. What are your
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    mortgage conditions, are you allowed to have someone not on the mortgage working from your premises? It's worth checking. He sounds really hard work, just what does he bring to the relationship? Make sure you are responsible for your bc.
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    Vivid Refrigerator... • 3h ago Not overreacting. Why can't he buy his own WFH stuff if he wants to work from your place? He's obviously capable of using what he has but unwilling to make the effort to bring it or move it from place to place periodically...... he should incur that expense. Not you. There is zero benefit to you here.
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    Efficient Theme4... • 3h ago ▶▶▶▶why are you letting this happen? He's a grown man who can buy his own ! Break up with the ungrateful entitled man!

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